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HOW PORN CAN MESS WITH YOUR EXPECTATIONS ABOUT REAL SEX

Unrealistic expectations, performance pressure and the difference between pornography and intimacy

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Ted Murithi

October 7, 2026·13 min read·15
HOW PORN CAN MESS WITH YOUR EXPECTATIONS ABOUT REAL SEX

Pornography can show you sex without showing you what real intimacy actually requires.

You see bodies that appear flawless, sexual encounters that seem effortless, people who always appear confident and interested, and situations that move from one moment to another without the awkwardness that exists in ordinary relationships.

There is no conversation about boundaries. No discussion about whether someone is comfortable. No need to deal with nervousness, insecurity, communication or the ordinary differences between two people.

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